By Kim Klein with Jean McCord's 'Confessions of a Curmudgenly Giver'. From the Grassroots Fundraising Journal, Volume 26, Number 2. Printer-friendly single article PDF download. 3 pages. Building relationships with donors means finding out how and when they want to hear from you â?? and then honoring their wishes. As Jean reminds us, if you donâ??t follow the donorâ??s wishes, you might not get another gift. Kim offers tips and tools that can help improve your communication with donors.